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If You Give A Mom A……

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If you give a mom a ________

  • If you give a mom a crying baby she will hold and comfort it
  • If you give a mom a hungry baby she will feed it
  • If you give a mom a hug she will probably smack you….unless you’re her child, then she’ll smile and give you a giant bear hug back
  • If you give a mom a child with a booboo she will kiss it and make it all better
  • If you give a mom a giant pile of dirty clothes she will launder them
  • If you give a mom dirty dishes she will wash them
  • If you give a mom a simple Thank You you’d be amazed at far it will go
  • If you give a mom a few scraps you’d be amazed at the feast she can whip up
  • If you give a mom a list, at 11p.m.,  that says her child will bring  40 cupcakes for the party at school TOMORROW, she will bake them
  • If you give a mom 2 hours she very well may take a nap
  • If you give a mom a kid free vacation she will spend ¾ of it worrying about and missing their children
  • If you give a mom a skateboard she will hop on, pretend she knows what she’s doing, bust her ass, and do it all again, all to make the kiddos smile
  • If you give a mom a couple of blankets and a chair she’ll make a killer fort and spend the day hiding out in it….with the children of course….
  • If you give a mom bored whiney children you’d be amazed at the games she’ll come up with
  • If you give a mom a bottle of rum, you’ll have one happy momma

I have to admit I’ve never read the If You Give a Mouse a Cookie books, but my kiddos have and I liked the title so much I’m running with my own spin on a list of things that happen If You Give a Mom a _________…..Hope you enjoy

Mom Duties …Making a sick monster SMMIIILLLEEE

read to be read at yeahwrite.me

Autism Is & Isn’t

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Autism is:

  • Finding new creative ways to teach our cuties, it’s not that they aren’t smart it’s that they learn differently, you have to find what works for each child individually
  • Knowing when to stop pushing to avoid meltdowns / but knowing how much to push to encourage learning.
  • Positive Reinforcers (aka bribery)…and lots of them….hey I don’t work for free either…just saying
  • Different for every child …just as every child is different, autism or not
  • As a parent, trying to give your child all the fun experiences any child should get the opportunity to enjoy, all while sheltering them from the stares, the possible sensory overloads, and the general assheadness of many out there who mistake things like stimming for misbehaving
  • Celebrating the small victories
  • Remembering that autism is not our kids, our kids may have autism, but our kids are still just kids
  • Realizing that no matter how frustrating it may feel at times from the parent side of it, remembering it’s a million times more frustrating for our cuties…not being able to express what they are trying to, it’s heartbreaking
  • Being a translator…to the world my sons speaks a foreign language, to me he speaks pretty clearly
  • A constant fear of regression
  • You, as a parent, fighting for all the services your kids need and finding ways to make sure they get them

Autism isn’t:

  • Caused by lazy parents..while experts cannot agree on what causes autism, and I have my own 2 cents on the issue….it is 100% NOT caused by lazy parenting
  • All savants and rainmen, yes there are some true geniuses out there…some with autism, some without, but autism doesn’t always = geniusness
  • Excuses….as parents it’s our job to make sure our kids learn; learn right from wrong, learn appropriate behaviors, learn anything and everything they can learn, anything and everything we can teach them, no excuses are acceptable
  • Therapy 24/7, or at least it shouldn’t be….yes consistency is important, but remembering that everyone needs a break and needs down time is equally important. I don’ t get parents that push therapy all the time…My job is to be mom, to tackle the mom duties, the therapists job is to do therapy….my job is to carry over what I can into the home, not to do hours of nightly drills after my kiddos already put in a full day at school and after school therapy
  • Bad…I hate all the whinning…in fact I have 2 posts ranting all about it, just waiting for my Bloggy Blankittis to go away so I can finish up the posts….Venting is 100% okay, but realizing autism isn’t bad/terrible/tragic/the end of the world is so important.

So…to sum up my mini rant….Autism is learning new creative ways to make sure our cuties learn, everything else is just parenting….remembering our kids are still kids and are perfect just the way they are, and LOVING them like CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And a final thought on being nonverbal, “Just because I have no words doesn’t mean I have nothing to say”.

I’m sort of cheating this week….I wrote this post a few weeks ago, but due to the blog move it didn’t really get seen, and since April is Autism Awareness Month I thought I’d reshare my two cents on what Autism Is & Isn’t…Hope you enjoy…and hope you don’t mind my cheating rule bending :)

Stressin…Just Don’t!

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I used to stress over everything….Hell sometimes I still do…BUT one day it hit me…Not like in the movies when the lightbulb dings over someone’s head, but gradually, over time and through experience….stressing really doesn’t accomplish anything except for sleeplessness, anxiety, over eating, wrinkles, gray hairs….nothing good.

Before you stress ask yourself:
Does it accomplish anything?
Does it magically fix the situation?

Nope….so let’s scratch the stressing idea and replace it with just letting things happen…you’d think it’d be hard to do, but once you realize the stressing, the worrying, isn’t getting you anywhere it’s a much easier concept….

Don’t look at me like I’m a crazy carefree hippie chick with the easy life….I know someone out there has to have had that thought cross their mind…it’s okay lol….I have things that stress me out, that frustrate and/or worry me…more than some / less than others…but this isn’t about having a pissing match, it’s about realizing that while stresses occur if it’s something that’s beyond our control we can’t worry ourselves sick over it.

Why do it to yourself??? Seriously??? Life’s too short!! If you have a problem / an issue / a stressor and it’s something you can fix, do it!!! If not, pray about it, or mediate about it, or just let it be, but don’t worry yourself sick over something you can’t control, instead enjoy all life’s thrown your way

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Life’s a journey…and you only get one ride…enjoy & love it all!

REMEMBER::::You only have 30,000 mornings!! Don’t waste any of them stressing!

DON’T FORGET!! –It’s Tuesday…You know what that means…it’s time for